These days we are finding it harder and harder to step out of our heavily routined days and do something for us. We try to include sounding time together everyday but sometimes that isn't enough. We get distracted by all the things we have to do, giving priority to our kids, our careers, even our plants and our relationship gets comfortable and boring af. Over the years we have had to remind each other that our relationship needs to be a priority and we definitely don't want it to become boring, so we came up with a list of things that we both enjoy and try to do something as often as possible just just once a week or God forbid once a month. Here's seven of our favorites, be sure to some up with some of your own favorites to add to the list.
We get creative with themed date nights: Themed night are as fun as themed parties, we spice up our date nights with fun themes such as dressing up as . as superheroes, movie characters. We have a Caribbean night where we pretend we are at a beach side resort, dance to reggae music and eat jerk chicken. We even put on disco lights in the back porch and pretend we are at a club. Don't be afraid to unleashing your playful side and keeping things fresh and fun.
Mike loves to surprise me even though I wasn't big on surprises, he would do it anyway. This has definitely been something that required a mindset change on my part, but now I love surprises. Keep the thrill alive by planning unexpected surprises for your partner. Start the day with breakfast in bed, leave sweet love notes in their pockets, or whisk them away on a spontaneous weekend getaway to an unexplored destination. Adding an element of surprise to your routine injects a delightful spark and reminds both of you why you fell head over heels in love.
Laugh your hearts out together: They say laughter is the best medicine, and I couldn't agree more! Share funny videos, binge-watch hilarious sitcoms, or attend a comedy show together (even if it's just a Netflix marathon). Research shows that couples who laugh together regularly have more satisfying relationships. So let your inner comedians shine and enjoy those contagious giggles.
Discover new adventures as a duo: Ready to embark on thrilling escapades with your partner? Dive into uncharted territories and take up a new hobby or activity together. Whether it's trying out cooking classes, mastering salsa dancing, or learning to play a musical instrument, the shared experience of conquering something new will deepen your bond and create countless opportunities for laughter and inside jokes.
Rediscover the true meaning of intimacy: Intimacy is about more than just physical connection—it's about emotional closeness and vulnerability. Carve out dedicated time for intimate conversations where you can truly connect on a deeper level. Explore the concept of "Love Maps" inspired by the Gottman method and use it to dive into your partner's inner world. Show genuine interest in their dreams, fears, and aspirations. If you're interested, you can download our free game printable here for a fun and insightful exploration.
Relive the magic of your first encounter: Take a nostalgic trip down memory lane by recreating your first date. Dress up like you did back then, revisit the same spot where it all began, and relive those sweet, sometimes awkward moments. This journey will not only remind you of the early days of your relationship but also reignite that initial spark that brought you together in the first place.
Unplug and reconnect: In this digital age, it's easy to get lost in the virtual world. Challenge yourselves to unplug for a day or even a whole weekend. Use that time to disconnect from social media and reconnect with each other. Go on nature hikes, play board games, or have deep conversations without the distractions of smartphones. You'll be amazed at how refreshing it is to give your undivided attention to your partner.
Surprise with love coupons: Create a personalized booklet of love coupons that your partner can redeem whenever they please. From a relaxing massage to cooking their favorite meal or granting them a day off from chores, these coupons are a fun and playful way to show your love and give your partner something to look forward to. If you want to make it a bit more exciting, you can download our DIY version here. And don't forget, if you know your partner's Love Language, tailor the coupons to their preferences.
May your journey be filled with love, adventure, and countless memorable moments together!